A loss that lingers

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Judy NennerW

Losing my cousin Judy Nenner was very difficult, since she was very special to all who knew her.

It’s been a year since I lost my beloved cousin Judy Nenner, called the “mother of all mothers” by her family and friends.

It is a tradition that a year after a Jewish person passes, there is an “unveiling” ceremony at the cemetery to dedicate the tombstone and bring loved ones together.

And so we gathered at the Old Montefiore Cemetery in Springfield Gardens Sunday morning. Although it was a tearful, heart-heavy experience, it helped all of us to remember her dearness. Several friends and family members shared how Judy’s holiday meals were served bountifully and deliciously from overflowing platters. Fred, her devoted husband, has continued this tradition but all agreed it is hard to duplicate her recipes. I often think Judy’s secret ingredient was her love of having us all together.

Although many days of my life were spent enjoying family meals together, at the unveiling I shared what made Judy so unique to me. It was simply her visits with me and “being there” when my life was in turmoil. When I had an operation, she was at my house tending to me. When I got divorced she invited me and my children to her summer home umpteen times. When my husband Stu had his heart operations she was there to hold my hand. I often say it’s easy to be a friend when the “sun” is shining. It’s when the storm clouds come into my life that my true friends show their faces. Judy helped me get through the “storms” of my life. I so desperately miss her tender hand and kind words.

Go Red and make a difference

Coming up on May 15, the Go Red for Women division of the American Heart Association will hold its annual Queens Dinner Gala at Terrace on the Park.

The organization had asked me to help raise important dollars for its “make it your mission to fight heart disease” campaign. Since both my parents had bypass surgery, I’m very conscious of the need to avoid what is the number one killer of women, particularly because it can be prevented.

As a newspaper we sponsored, along with New York Hospital Queens, a free 12-week exercise, dietary and nutrition makeover process called “BetterU.” To encourage participation, Lois Christie hosted a Go Red wine and cheese party at her salon in The Bay Terrace Shopping Center. She and I both believe that when you look good you feel good — and does she have a talented staff to make it happen!

So join Go Red for Women as they honor me, along with Dr. Chong Park, Chief, Division of Cardiology, New York Hospital Queens; and Patricia Thompson, Customer Service & Public Relations Manager, Bombardier. Diane M. Sixsmith, M.D., M.P.H., FACEP, Chair, Department of Emergency Medicine, New York Hospital Queens, will have the honor of chairing the dinner this year. Tracie Strahan, Reporter, WNBC-4, will emcee this year’s dinner.

It should be a wonderful evening, so call 516-450-9123 for tickets. Look forward to seeing you there!